Many professionals and leaders I speak to say they don’t feel content with the way their life is turning out. Sure they have a great job or business, a comfortable home, healthy family, doting partner, the cars, holidays…. whatever, but it feels like there’s something not right. Something missing perhaps?

From the outside, looking at their ‘set-up’ there’s nothing wrong. They’ve got what appears to be everything we are ‘conditioned’ to strive for. They say they know they should feel grateful, blessed to have all the material things that they enjoy. But on the inside, it’s just not stacking up.

Maybe they can’t rest. They feel guilty if they stop being busy so they multi-task even when supposedly relaxing. Or when they do try to rest, others always have other plans for them – keen to get some attention.

Perhaps they are always forward planning the next big project or improvement to their home or even themselves, or constantly studying hoping new skills and qualifications will make them feel better..

Perhaps there’s a ghastly feeling of agitation in their stomach if they stop for a moment and it’s so uncomfortable that they just don’t give in to it. Instead, they keep themselves distracted by exercise or active hobbies so they don’t have the chance to settle and feel it. Or maybe they retreat back into their home office to get on with something there.

Boredom is another huge factor. I’ve heard many say that they get bored easily and anything less than being constructive, or playing hard at something just doesn’t cut it. Well, boredom is often the sign of a very busy mind, one that can’t slow down and take joy from the most simple things.

So what might be going on here?

Well, that really is the six million dollar question.

Disconnection

I often find that my clients have become ‘disconnected’ with who they are and what they really want in their life. OK I know this sounds crazy, but hear me out.

We are changing all the time – from cellular level right the way through to how we think, feel and behave. The thing is, most of the time we don’t notice these changes unless it’s by spotting undesirable changes like illness, weight gain, hair loss or another wrinkle!

On-going change is perfectly normal and the way it must be as in any moment our experience is changing, we are learning and growing. If we didn’t change as we age, we’d still be thinking and behaving like young children. We are not the same person as we were last year, last month or even yesterday.

But we don’t notice this change unless it is as a result of a significant or life-changing event including a serious threat to our life, an illness, job loss or so on that can give us a jolt and make us take stock.

Without something forcing the issue of looking at ourselves and what we want, we can become disconnected with who we are – with what really matters to us right now. What we would fight for, live for, die for if it came to it.

So is it any wonder that we can feel out of sorts and disconnected? It isn’t hard to become dissatisfied with the reality we have created in our material world, with the work we do, with the usual routine that feels constraining. Life that may even feel like a prison because you cannot get off the wheel without risking it all and that’s a real source of stress and pressure.

Is this you?

Reaching this awareness may be the first and most valuable step. You now have choices whether to stick with what you know and have – in the so-called Comfort Zone (even if it’s not entirely comfortable) or making a change. Staying the same is a compromise, but the thought of changing it may feel overwhelming!

Making changes from a place of disconnection can lead to poor decisions. It can feel confusing, frustrating and stressful.

Instead, I suggest it’s time to understand how you really think and feel about what’s around you. It’s time to spend some time reacquainting yourself with yourself and your values, beliefs and aspirations. It’s time to find out which aspects of your life could do with a dusting down or a shake-up.

Where to start?

You can’t solve this with the same thinking that created it. That’s why it is helpful to go through a trusted system that works and leaves you in an informed and empowered position to move forward from.

If you don’t know where to start I have the solution for you. I have a blended training and coaching programme that takes you through different stages to understand both yourself and how you think and feel so you can identify the priority area or areas for change in your life. You may discover that it’s not anything major, but what you can learn about yourself can transform your relationships, outlook and the rest of your life!

So in the words of Mary Oliver “What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

What are you waiting for?

This is a real opportunity to do something powerful for YOU if you are ready to commit to the process. It’s the chance to break out of your usual pattern of thinking and a chance to consider what you would really love at this stage in your life.

If you’re ready to find out and would like to know more please get in touch, or schedule an initial call.